Is Insecurity Guiding Your Life Too?

I was in a discussion last week with some of veryYou see in any situation or any action that you take
well regarded industry leaders. The subject ofabove, one point is clear - Insecurity will bread
discussion was achieving greatness in groups.insecurity. Ever heard of this - as you sow so shall
Most discussions on groups, and this one no differentyou reap. Well its very true from operating with
almost always and implicitly leads to the notion ofinsecurity.
'least common denominator' and finding ways toThe difference between a cricket coach and you in
round off the rough edges.such situations is that he doesn't have a choice and
The magic though lies elsewhere.you do. My guess is that the difference between
Examine carefully the leaders of the Indian cricketpeople who learn to be the architect of possibilities
team in the recent past. The turnaround that startedand those who focus on rounding off the edges is
under Sourav Ganguly, the magic lay in Souravthat the architects operate from the second most
allowing other players to be themselves. The magicmotivating factor for human beings, unlike the
for example lay in allowing a Sehwag to be morerounder who operate from the first. Somewhere,
Sehwag than he himself knew he could be. He didn'teither the architects learned to control or convert
attempt to round off Sehwag's rough edges or fortheir motive of 'operating from insecurity' into the
any of the other youngsters.second motive, or simply realized that the second
The ESSENCE of a fabulous group is allowingone anyways satisfies the first.
individuals to be bigger and more individuals than theyThe second most prime-motivating factor for human
ever could be before.beings, by the way, is the emotion of love.
The principle of the Cricket team applies equally toNeedless to say that if we were to operate from
say an accounting department or a sales departmentthe emotion of love for the other person (team or
in our organizations. The only difference is thatindividual) - what would our solutions be? Would it be
leaders here make sure that people are not free toto develop them and help them overcome defeat
do their absolute best. Think carefully about theseand become better individuals or would it be to step
words and ask yourself a very basic question aboutin and be the hero for ten minutes?
people who are with you as a manager or a leader -Its easier to focus on fixing a problem as there is
"is he or she free to do his or her absolute best, notsomething to do, to solve, to get hands dirty, than
as you would judge it but as they would"to imagine a great reality, extending support and
One of the finest managers I have been associatedletting go. There is nothing to do. Thus even when
with defined his job to me as being the architect ofwe try it, in the absence of something to do, we
possibilities for people. One of the best things aboutmust do something else - which will inevitably fixing
being the coach of a cricket team is that you areanother problem. It's a TRAP. You will fall for it every
very luck that you cant to anybody's job. It issingle time.
absolutely impossible for Gary Kirsten to walk out onInsecurity is a result of imaging a worse off reality
the field between high-pressure cricket matches andthan a better off reality. Effects of insecurity will
do anything.always bread further insecurity. One look at the
He is lucky because the problem in our departmentsparliament's handling of the women reservation bill,
is we promote the best person, he or she knowsone look at the few individuals and their possible
she is the best and when the going gets really tough,motives behind attacking the chair of the speaker
when everything is on the brink of a breakdown, wemakes it very clear to me that its out of insecurity.
step in and help out. And why not otherwise myWhat comes out of that insecurity? - Withdrawal of
performance will become a question mark!support to the government. What does the
The coach of the cricket team or the manager ofgovernment do next? - They act out of insecurity
the soccer team or the master of the orchestra,created for them defer the voting on the bill.
none of them have the option to step in on the fieldInsecurity breads insecurity.
and bat, or play center forward or to pick up thePlease realize that the only security you ever need is
violin and start playing. They have no other choiceknowing that you are better today, that you have
but to be the architect of possibilities for the people.more skills as on 9th March 2010 than you had on 9th
The one's who learn it are the one's found in greatMarch 2009. If you do, you have no reason to be
teams. What else is there in management andinsecure. Unfortunately for most of us, the only
leadership if not this?additional skill we have today over the last year is
Why is it that some people are able to conceive ofone more year of experience added on to the
themselves as architect of possibilities while others, aresume. That is not skill. That is the most useless of
vast majority of others fall into the trap of fixingall statistics. The scientifically proven reason for us
problems, controlling, making people follow the rulesnot focusing enough on acquiring additional skills, of
or simply rounding off their edges? What is theadding value to our own selves, of adding depth to
difference? Why do most of us get fixated onour own selves year on year is that we don't
correcting or improving the other person? Myoperate out of the emotion of love even for our
research and my thinking has led me to theown selves. We operate out of self preservation
difference being just one word - Insecurity.which then makes do so much that it leaves no time
By the way 'insecurity' is not a bad word. Insecurityfor anything else!
basically means you are trying to protect yourselfThe discussions with the industry leaders and with
from a possible reality. 'The desire for selfthem with certain teams about what I have written
preservation' is for decades documented as thehere got us these reactions: "but I cant do anything',
number-one motive for any given purpose. In other"it's the culture issue, what can I do", "I don't have
words it is the prime motivating factor for humanthe authority to make changes and start rating
beings.people on these aspects than the normal managerial
When we run into a situation with our teams, or withone's."....
individuals who have managed to run into roughThere is nothing more self defeating, self demeaning,
weather - there are mails flowing everywhere,self doubting, self discouraging, self degrading, self
bosses are marked, the boss's boss is copied -humiliating than to say 'I Cant do anything'. What are
emotions are running high - you can almost smellyou trying to say? That you are no good. That you
tension - that something's got to give. The naturalcannot bring out your own individuality. That you
response, thus becomes, to step in and dounderstand it but are so feeble and helpless.
something. Why do we do that? Again two probableIf you do find these words in you, please remember
reasons - one that you don't want you team to failit only exemplifies the point in this article that you
and two that obviously it would be nice to be thehave never operated from the emotion of love for
problem solver in a crisis, after all we have all beenyour own self as you would rather demean yourself
taught that all good leaders are great 'crisis people'.than to grow into a better and a more powerful
For BOTH these actions, the motivation ishuman being.
self-preservation.The greatest leaders of our world, the Gandhi and
Evidently and understandably one in such a situation isthe Mandela, none of them had any authority. They
not thinking of creating possibilities for people to helpled without it. None of them said 'I can't do it.' They
them discover their individuality and become betterjust did. The only thing they had in common was
than ever before. Lets play along a little and see ifdreams, passion, integrity and some serious jail time.
you actually did the latter what may have happenedEven that didn't bread insecurity, nor did it lead them
- one possibility is that the individual would have failedto any self-preservation. They knew how to convert
and so you were justified in what you did. The otherit to the emotion of love for the masses. Their way
possibility is that the individual may have succeededwas very simple - just let go and be what you want
and you might have been marginalized in all theto be, the rest will happen. In fact their ways were
'praise' mails. Both the cases lead to further insecurity.so simple that no one else bothered to try. Yet they
Now that the solution that we actually go with whichare the architects of possibilities for the human being.
is to step in and do the needful - what happensLook what they manifested for us.
there. Problem solved. You got noticed. What did youWhat will you manifest? Forget everybody else. Even
learn? Next time there is a problem, step in again.if you were to operate from the motive of self
Further praise. Thus a reinforcement in thepreservation or insecurity, its only logical to adopt the
subconscious mind that operating with the motive ofemotion of love for your own self at least. Isn't it?
self-preservation is the way.